Desire or doom? The paradox of wanting it too much.

Published 3 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader,

It’s a mixture of excitement and borderline obsession.

The sense that this one thing has to work.
You want it so bad that you can’t loosen your grip on the desired outcome.

Maybe it feels like the perfect fit for your goals, and you can’t imagine another opportunity being better.

Maybe it feels like proof, validation that the person you want to become (or how you want to see yourself) is possible.

Or maybe it’s the thrill of possibility. That spark of fun energy that gives you a little dopamine hit just imagining it.

It’s human to want what feels exciting, validating, or perfectly aligned.

But the tricky part is, the tighter we grip one outcome, the more we lose sight of the bigger picture.

Attachment clouds our clarity.
It puts blinders on.
It makes us miss other opportunities that could be just as good, or even better.

Yes, knowing your goals, preparing, and putting in effort is important.

But after that, it’s an exercise in releasing your grip.
Trusting yourself to handle what unfolds, even if it doesn’t look like what you pictured.

Because progress isn’t about guaranteeing the result.
It’s about building the resilience to keep going, no matter what.

Reflection:

This week, notice where attachment shows up for you.

Are you holding too tightly to an outcome out of your control?

Did this resonate? I love hearing from you! Reply and tell me more.

Until next week,
Jenine

Jenine Camins is an ICF certified performance and personal development coach who helps you bridge the gap between intention and action.

By offering guidance tailored to your unique strengths and pace, you'll create lasting change and finally see progress where it matters most—on your terms.

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